The Extroverted Introvert

Don’t go rogue on me, but I’m actually really digging this weather. Let me explain.



I’m sitting here in shorts on my balcony, enjoying the cool 70 degree weather yet a mere four days ago I wore this coat to brunch. And this maniac wants to get rid of the EPA… I digress.

Weather in DC has been interesting lately. I’ve lived here all my life (minus college in the midwest) and I can’t remember a time where I was enjoying rooftop happy hours and bundled up in North Face snow boots and a floor length down coat a few days later. But, confession: I love it. I’m the type of person who would rather be holed up in a snowy mountain cabin than relaxing by the beach which would have made this whole moving to Miami thing very interesting. Oh, did you not know I was seriously contemplating moving to Miami? Yeah. More on that in the next few weeks, my friends. My friends think I’m crazy but I’m telling you, seasonal depression is a thing and I experience it in the summer. I gravitate towards being alone in quieter settings (winter creates a perfect environment for this) which is a complete 180 from a few years ago. I used to love spending my time out with friends, being the center of attention. Now, I’m much more interested in quality time with quality friends and I recharge better alone.




If you haven’t already read this article on extroverted introverts that’s making its way around social media, I highly suggest you skim through it. Perhaps surprisingly for some of you, this is me to a T. I much prefer email than meeting in person and these days, blog related events are nearly overwhelming for me. I found myself borderline socially paralyzed at an event I attended last week which was a new, not so enjoyable, experience. I think this has a lot to do with current circumstances (again, more on this later) but I’ve also reached a place where I’m comfortable with what I’m comfortable with and I rarely force myself into situations. I don’t like goodbyes. I’m a big fan of the Irish exit. And when I’m done in a particular setting, I’m done. I struggle with anxiety and as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized that the only person I need to worry about is myself. So I do just that.



similar NAVY COAT


I’ve reached the point in life where I’m realizing how precious my time is. I want to spend my moments improving the quality of my life whether that’s experiences or people or places or knowledge. All that matters is that I’m constantly improving. I’ve been reading a book a week for the last few weeks and that small task alone has majorly helped me reflect and determine what I want to squeeze out of life. I’ve listed a few of my current favorites below that I absolutely recommend if you’re in the market for a little life reorganization or simply looking for a new inspirational read.




Are you an extroverted introvert? Are you recharged by others or do you prefer to recharge alone? I’m always looking for advice to improve the effectiveness of my downtime and I’d love for you to share!

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  1. March 30, 2017 / 1:07 pm

    I’m an introverted introvert :) All those new things you described has been my entire life. It really wasn’t until college that I started to learn how to fake it enough to not be completely awkward but it exhausts me to go to events or be around a large group of people (good thing I’m a teacher?!). But life involves human interaction so I’ve adjusted to giving myself time to decompress and recharge during the week or else I know I will have a total stress breakdown!

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      District Sparkle
      March 30, 2017 / 1:55 pm

      I feel like, timing wise, I’m the exact opposite which is so interesting. I need to get better at prepping for max socialization before these events. Thanks for sharing, Kellie!

  2. March 31, 2017 / 11:06 am

    I’ve always ben down to your blog because of your understated sophisticated style. When you were honest about your politics recently I was cheering (and commiserating!!!!) and became even more of a fan. Now I find out that we share the introvert trait as well – I am a decade older than you (or so I can gather from your blog) and you are in such a great space to be having this realization now about being comfortable with yourself and setting your needs first! Go you!!

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      District Sparkle
      March 31, 2017 / 2:49 pm

      Thanks, Kath! I’m so glad that you’re enjoying the candidness and I’m hopeful you’ll love the new content I’m planning over the next few months.

  3. March 31, 2017 / 11:07 am

    And that was supposed to say “drawn to your blog” — stupid autocorrect!

  4. Tree
    March 31, 2017 / 1:04 pm

    Um. YES. I am on your page. I remember in high school and college it was all I could do the be as out and about as possible. Now? The more alone time, the better. Reading a book with a cup of coffee is my game.

    I think part of it is definitely an adjustment to the times changing. But I also think a part of it is where we are in our lives. We’ve mostly discovered who we are (whether we realize it our not), our values, and our needs. Now that we know, there is less need to bounce our lives off of those around us and a greater comfort from being ourselves.

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      District Sparkle
      March 31, 2017 / 2:43 pm

      Absolutely agree. Thank you so much for sharing!

  5. April 2, 2017 / 8:50 pm

    This. I identify with it so much.
    When j look at my calendar and have a day full of events, I just want to cancel them all and hide out. I LIVE for rainy days (preferably cold ones) where k have an excuse to kick it inside.
    I feel like there’s so much I agree with you on all fronts but especially this!

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      District Sparkle
      April 4, 2017 / 8:54 am

      Cold, rainy days are at the top of my list, right behind cloudy, snowy ones! I feel you on the multiple events per day thing, too.

  6. April 3, 2017 / 2:42 pm

    All of the yes! I usually describe myself as a person who has trouble with moderation… I am either 110% ON, or 110% OFF. I schedule myself entire Sundays of just time alone after a busy week or weekend of playing. I’ve also totally embraced the Irish Exit, and have 0 shame in doing so. When I’m done, I’m done. My biggest challenge is when I’m dating or spending time with someone new, and try to politely express that I have a capacity and if/when I’m about to reach it. I’ve also learned to give myself those scheduled “recharge” days, where I Netflix binge or read or lay and eat comfort food and let myself have ALL. THE. EMOTIONS. and then get up the next day ready to take on the world again.